Meville


Oh, Little Gray Hair
August 24, 2008, 3:14 am
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Picture the Chick Pea Family enjoying the beautiful morning in our back patio…little Pea was inspecting her rocks as usual while we watched on in the warm sunlight. I felt Favorite’s gaze on me, so I made my best attempt at looking like a morning goddess with the soft breeze flowing through my hair. I love it when he gives me attention and tells me I look pretty, so naturally I was silently giddy with excitement about the forthcoming compliment.

“Oooh look, you’ve got a gray hair! Now you’re old like me…hahaha.”

Mm, thanks.

It was bound to happen. The little gray hair that showed up a few months ago (okay, a year ago) has made itself known to the outside world. Try as I did to hide it, it reared up its silvery little pointy head to break through my otherwise silky dark chocolate tresses. Even though I’ll be turning thirty this year, I think the arrival of my first gray hair seems a little premature for this spring chicken.

I guess I should make peace with the unwelcome little platinum lock since he’ll no doubt be multiplying soon. That or I could color the hell out of it because I’m not ready to grow old gracefully.



You Just Don’t Know Until . . .
January 29, 2008, 5:00 pm
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. . . you’re in the thick of it. I’m not sure how many times in my life I’ve already learned this lesson or how many more times I’ll have to experience being humbled for it to sink in. Just when I think I’ve got things figured out to the point where I can look down my seasoned nose at others for not being as savvy in certain matters in life, I find myself right on my ass doing what I said I’d never do. And two of my favorite mantras besides“me first, me first, me, me, me!” are “never say never” (which is an idiotic saying that I’m never going to say again) and “I know for sure that I don’t know everything”. I’m starting to seriously question whether I know anything at all.

My latest ass-falling moment came to me when we (the fam) were eating dinner last night. I was reminded of a time when I simultaneously condemned someone for doing something I knew was unwise and made a silent promise that I wouldn’t do the same, all the while nodding sympathetically at her. Gawd, I can be such a judgmental snob sometimes! I probably do need to keep falling on my ass.

Anyway, when I was 8 months pregnant, I met up with a friend and her adorable 3 month old baby for lunch. As soon as we sat down, she proceeded to take her baby out of the carseat and hold her in her lap the entire time. She could barely even eat her sandwich, much less relax and enjoy my pleasant company. I remember ranting to Favorite that night about how her baby hadn’t even been crying, seemed perfectly content in the carrier, and how she had unnecessarily taken her out just for the sake of holding her. I went on to say that I would neeever do that because then the baby would always expect to be held and would grow to be super needy. He, supportive future-dad that he was, heartily agreed and we moved along on our gossiping way, content with the knowledge that we knew what was going on.

Flash forward a couple of months to when our baby has been born and has the needs that babies naturally do. We just so happened to have a daughter that is very demanding and requires a lot of contact. The difference in people’s parenting lies in how they react and respond to the needs that their babies have. After getting to know her and learning a lot about attachment parenting, we both agreed that there was no other way for our family. So when we go out to eat or are eating at home, our baby doesn’t cry either, but we pick her up and hold her. What may look like a baby that’s “content” because it’s not crying to an observer sitting nearby, can actually be a baby who’s sending cues to her parents to let them know she’s not happy without crying (as our baby does).

I wonder how many people judge us for “spoiling” our baby.  Oh well . . . karma!



Operation Chisel
January 14, 2008, 8:35 pm
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So Operation Chisel was initiated as of 15:00 yesterday. I am almost 6 months postpartum and I’m just now getting enough freedom from my little monkey to get back into a work out routine. It’s not that I haven’t been exercising since Chick Pea was born, but this will be the first time that I can actually work out regularly at the gym. So far, I’ve been going to yoga every week and I was walk/running 2-3 times a week up until a couple of months ago because it got too cold. I know, I’m a huge wimp – but it’s because I’m an equator baby and I haven’t lived in cold weather before!

I’ve always been fortunate enough to have been blessed with one of those fast metabolisms; the kind that make people women hate me because I can eat whatever I want without gaining weight. So even though I gained 40 pounds while pregnant, I’ve been back to my pre-preg weight for a few months (breastfeeding can also be thanked for that – it rocks!). But I am very out of shape . . . and the holidays didn’t help!

So this post is not intended to brag about my great genes, its purpose is to put this mission in writing in an effort to make me stick to my regimen so that I can look cute in the denim variety. Being healthier is nice too, but blah blah blah – looking cute is better.

Heymann, if you’re out there . . . it’s on!



“I Read Today . . .”
January 12, 2008, 10:00 pm
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Mr Favorite pointed out to me that we start a lot of our conversations this way. I hadn’t thought about it before, but he’s absolutely right. We’re always sharing new things we learned about that day. Granted, included in these daily updates are useless tidbits of information regarding some scandalous famous person that did something stupid. Yet most of the time we swap worthwhile info on various topics. We also noted that many people around us don’t use that term very often. Especially when I started thinking about many of my former co-workers in the so-called learned field of education. Or maybe it’s just that people take credit for the things they discuss and pass it on as their own opinion/knowledge. Either way, it made me wonder . . . do people (besides bloggers and blog lurkers) ever read just for the sake of it anymore?

I’ll readily admit that I don’t read actual books that much anymore. Not because I don’t enjoy them, but because I tend to get obsessed with books. No matter how interesting or boring a book is – I have to finish it once I start it. And I’ve never been the kind that could read a couple chapters of a book each night or a bit here and there as time allowed. No – once I start, I basically ignore everything and do nothing except read that book until I finish it (this usually means that I’m out of commission for a day or two). It also gives me the added pleasure of irritating those around me who desperately vie for my attention. They try so hard to tear me away, only to get painfully ignored. In the case of gossip magazines I average about an hour, so it’s not that bad (right, Stef?).

As much as I’d love to lose myself in a good book, I just don’t have the luxury of time to dedicate myself to a book the way I’d like. So instead, I just read online . But I do read, and more importantly, I learn everyday. Because isn’t that the point – even if it’s just for entertainment??? I think it’s sad that some people don’t like to read and avoid it as much as they can. I can’t imagine purposefully turning away new information or not seeking it out.



Have I Really Changed?
December 13, 2007, 3:24 am
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I like to think that I’m pretty much the same person that I’ve been since I was 16 or 17. I don’t think I’ve really changed that much except for having more responsibilities. But let’s see. I got this email from a friend, so I’d like to submit it as evidence that I’m still as young as a spring chicken.

10 Things That I Liked as A Teenager That I Like Now

  • sushi
  • making fun of people (harmless fun)
  • the beach
  • rap
  • making out and stuff
  • listening to gossip
  • making to do lists
  • procrastinating
  • smart and funny people
  • flip flops

10 Things That I Didn’t Like As A Teenager That I Don’t Like Now

  • onions
  • nosy people (contradicts with my like of gossip, I know)
  • going to the dentist
  • carbonated drinks
  • cloudy days
  • pretentiousness
  • cold weather
  • closed minds
  • tapered jeans
  • smoking

10 5 Things I Liked As A Teen That I Don’t Like Now

  • Tales From The Crypt
  • steel toed shoes
  • credit cards
  • my bangs in the shape of a wave
  • scrunchies

10 Things That I Didn’t Like As A Teen That I Do Like Now

  • drinking milk
  • staying home on a Friday night
  • vodka
  • hip hop
  • make-up (at times)
  • wearing skirts
  • cats
  • being debt free
  • cooking
  • being patient

See! I haven’t changed that much. The proof lays in the fact that I had such ease coming up with things for the first two categories, but really struggled to come up with things for the third. The Last category just proves that I have matured and learned new things . . . not changed. Ok, so maybe I’m in denial.